I have to admit that before writing this post, I had never purposefully sought out fanfiction involving asexuality, if only because I was too scared to. I’m not trying to say that I think all ace fanfiction would be terrible or poorly written—one of my favorite fics stars an ace character—but I’ve had a lot of bad experience with stories that have unfortunately made me a little terrified to see how other people interpret my sexuality. As such, I generally get my fanfiction kicks from reading stories that simply have no pairings, or no overt romance and sexual tension, as I more or less know what to expect from them.
Though I know there has to be plenty of well-written stories involving ace characters, there are also plenty of bad ones, and I sometimes feel as if this lack of quality comes from not only certain misunderstandings about asexuality, but also from how the original source material and writers treat asexuality.
Hello! Well, this is my first Web Crush, so I’m going to talk about one of my all-time favorite websites, AVEN.
AVEN was founded in 2001 by a David Jay after he came to the conclusion that he was different from everyone else. He has said that he realized that he wasn’t the same as all his friends and began looking into things a little more. Growing up in a world where very few people even know about asexuality, yeah, I’m going to say that it’s really confusing, so I wanted to share this site with everyone because of how much it’s done for me. Like many people, I would still be inaccurately calling myself heterosexual without the help of AVEN. The purpose of AVEN, according to Wikipedia, is: “creating public acceptance and discussion of asexuality and facilitating the growth of an asexual community.”
Though I personally haven’t joined AVEN—as I’m pretty sure I’m not the only MadameAce out there—it is a relatively safe place to read and discuss asexuality and how that affects our lives. Furthermore, not only does it create a safe environment to come out it, it is also educational in helping other people understand what asexuality is and how that changes relationships, such as this Q&A section here. And because it’s such a widely unheard of and unaccepted thing, it also has a Q&A section for family and friends here.
Within the forums, not only does it have discussions where asexuals can talk to each other, it also has places for us to talk to sexuals as well. In a confusing world, this site really cleared up a lot of things for me, and it was also really nice to find out that I’m not alone.